Archive for the ‘Family Culture’ Category

#424 – Parents Writing Books

Monday, December 6th, 2010

james livingston on the child’s play of writing a book.

Being a parent teaches you that you live forward but understand backward, as Kierkegaard claimed. You have to see the world from the standpoint of your children, but you can’t become a child. From that weird perspective, you begin to see your own parents in new ways. At any rate that is what has happened to me. I now see that my parents gave me a love of words, ideas, and arguments. So I give them back a book that came to me as a gift—a book that got written after my son asked me what would happen if I did not write I, and I had to say, ‘Well, nothing, I guess.’

— James Livingston, Acknowledgments to Pragmatism and the Political Economy of Cultural Revolution, 1850-1940

#284 – Childish Observations

Saturday, February 14th, 2009

when adults pay attention to children losing attention.

The baby, assailed by eyes, ears, nose, skin, and entrails at once, feels it all as one great blooming, buzzing confusion…. -William James, The Principles of Psychology

I love the following chart of infant and toddler play patterns, from Louise Bates Ames and Frances L. Ilg’s Your One-Year-Old: The Fun-Loving, Fussy 12-To 24-Month-Old. It shows the attention span at eighteen months, when a child zips from one toy to the next in a web of activity and exploration. Then, it shows the progression to four years, when a child concentrates on just one or two toys.

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Something is lost in this transition — a kind of blur of possibility, of interconnection and imagination. But something is gained as well — a newfound sense of purpose, concentration, and focus.

To keep both modes available within yourself — is that the life fully lived?

#282 – Don’t Get Your Gender in a Bow Tie

Friday, February 6th, 2009

the happy he and she of thai delivery food bags.

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Thai food delivery bag, February 2009

#272 – Talkin’ ‘Bout the Generations

Friday, January 16th, 2009

photos meant to shock just rock the sixties generational divide.

John Olson’s early 70s photographs of rock superstars with their parents try to shock with divergences. But seen almost forty years later, they reveal the strength of links across the generations as much as they announce the incongruities of sixties generational rebellion.

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Frank Zappa with his parents in Los Angeles, 1970 (Photo: John Olson)